Updated: Sep 4, 2021
In a world that goes on and on about #relationshipgoals,
some people can forget that the time of #singleness is equally important.
Jesus Christ lived as a single man his whole life on earth!
God called Jesus to be single and Jesus fulfilled that calling.
Apostle Paul talks about singleness (and marriage) in the Bible 1 Corinthians, Chapter 7.
Here are some things Paul says about Singleness:
"But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another." 1 Corinthians 7:7 NLT
Being married is a gift from God and singleness is a gift from God as well!
"So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust." 1 Corinthians 7: 8-9 NLT
Paul said that it was BETTER to be single (with self-control and NOT burning in lust) than married! However, there is nothing wrong with you wanting to be married. Being married is a blessing from God. You should wait on God for your spouse. In the meantime, enjoy your singleness.
"Each of you, dear brothers and sisters, should remain as you were when God first called you." 1 Corinthians 7:24 NLT
If you are called to singleness, then remain in that!
Be glad and take on the attitude of Jesus and Paul!
For the singles that have a desire to be married: Pray, Learn, Grow and Prepare,
because God may CALL you to marriage soon.
"I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible." 1 Corinthians 7: 32-35 NLT
This last passage literally sums up the joy of singleness.
When are single, you are able to dedicate every single moment to GOD!!!
If you really take in your season of singleness, you will make so many wonderful memories with God.
You will have an endless amount of time with God!
This season of time with God, you may never get back again.
If you are called to be married and have your own family,
your time with God may never be the same.
Your time with God and building your relationship with God is very important, especially when it comes to marriage and other relationships. God should ALWAYS be #1 in our lives and be our everything. Humans cannot take God's place. Being codependent on a human is a recipe for a disaster. Humans sin, let others down and unfortunately everyone has to die and go home to be with the Lord (hopefully). God is the ONLY constant entity in our lives. God is the only one who can mend a broken heart. Our letdowns from humans can only be fixed with God.
This is why singleness is so important!!! Singleness is a time when you learn to fully depend and trust God with your whole heart. When troubles come in your relationships and day to day life, you will always be able to refer back to God. God is also the only one who can teach us how to love others. We need God so that we are able to maintain and grow ourselves and our relationships!
When I was single, my time with God was effortless.
I worshipped, I prayed and I was in constant fellowship with him.
When I got married, that changed.
I had to start scheduling time to be with God.
I had to now balance my life with God, being a wife, a student and having a new ministry.
I would feel bad and I would go to God to talk about it.
God let me know that this is a new season of my life.
I had to close the gift of singleness, and open my new gift of marriage.
Gone were the days of only me and God.
Now I had to bare my fruit of selflessness in my marriage, my family and ministry.
I had to learn how to balance God and my now "earthly responsibilities".
Please do not interpret this the wrong way,
I am very grateful to be married and for my life!
Now I get to create special moments with God, myself and with my husband.
However, I am also grateful for my time of singleness as well.
I am grateful for my past memories of effortless moments with God.
I wanted to write this for anyone who may feel like they are not enough because of singleness. I also wrote this for anyone who feels like marriage is better than singleness.
I will say this: Being single is a blessing of growing in self and in God!
Seek God and let him open the gift of singleness for you.
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