Bible Verses: Matthew 19 v 1 – 13, Genesis 1 v 27, 2 v 24, Mark 10 v 7,
Deuteronomy 24 v 1 – 4,
Does God forgive if you get a divorce?
Is remarriage considered adultery?
Merriam Webster defines divorce as to legally dissolve one's marriage with; to end the marriage with (one's spouse) by divorce; to dissolve the marriage contract between, or to make or keep separate.
Marriage is a sacred thing in God's sight. For this reason, God intends marriage to be permanent.
In Genesis 2 v 24 AMP “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
You cannot separate one flesh, can you?
This question has been affecting humans for ages. But lets look at this from a different angle.
What is God's intention when it comes to marriage?
Marriage is a gift from God and God’s idea (Gen 2 v 18-24)
Marriage is an institute where God is the teacher/instructor
Marriage holds times of great joy (Proverb 5 v 18)
Commitment is essential to a successful marriage (Gen 24 v 58-60)
Romance is important in marriage (song 4 v 9-10)
Marriage creates the best environment for raising children (Mal 2 v 14-15)
Marriage is permanent (Matthew 19 v 6)
Only death should dissolve the marriage (Romans 7 v 2-3)
Be Faithful; Unfaithfulness breaks the bond of trust, the foundation of all relationships is trust (Matt 5 v 32)
Marriage is based on the principled practice of love, not on feelings (Eph 5 v 21-33)
Marriage is a living symbol of Christ and the Church (Eph 5 v 23-32)
Marriage is good and honorable (Heb 13 v 4)
A Strong Marriage Includes 3 Aspects:
1. When the man leaves his parents and, in a public act, promises himself to his wife;
2. The man and woman are joined together by taking responsibility for each other’s welfare and by loving the mate above all others.
3. The two people become one flesh in the intimacy and commitment of sexual union, which is reserved for marriage.
Marriage Displays God's Love!
God is love 1 John 4 v 7 – 21 AMP, with these focus points
God is love {He is the originator of love, and it is an enduring attribute of His nature}
let us [unselfishly] love and seek the best for one another, for love is from God
everyone who loves [others] is born of God and knows God [through personal experience].
We have come to know [by personal observation and experience], and have believed [with deep, consistent faith] the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides continually in him.
There is no fear in love [dread does not exist]. But perfect (complete, full-grown) love drives out fear, because fear involves [the expectation of divine] punishment, so the one who is afraid [of God’s judgment] is not perfected in love [has not grown into a sufficient understanding of God’s love].
Here is why God Provides Us with a Spouse:
This life is a struggle that affects humans physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. So, you need someone that will support, assist, challenge, encourage, motivate you and more, while directing you in Godly ways to help you focus on God.
- Deuteronomy 32 v 30 AMP
“How could one chase a thousand, And two put ten thousand to flight, Unless their Rock had sold them, And the Lord had given them up?
- Ecclesiastes 4 v 9-12 AMP
Two are better than one because they have a more satisfying return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and does not have another to lift him up. Again, if two lie down together, then they keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? And though one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
God & Divorce:
Malachi 2 v 10 – 17 AMP focusing on a few points
God hates divorce (Malachi 2 v 16)
God is the witness in the marriage (Mal 2 v 14)
God hates divorce may be due to pain and trauma, betrayal, confusion, frustration, and scar most people experience during and after a divorce.
This is When God Allows Divorce:
Another painful part of this issue is the question of remarriage?
Jesus said in Matthew 19 v 9 AMP “I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery”; in this statement you can see a clause. So, if Jesus is allowing divorce for sexual immorality “marital unfaithfulness”, that means he may also have remarriage in mind.
It is my understanding and view that there are certain instances that divorce and remarriage are permitted because of adultery (cheating on spouse) AND abuse (your life is at risk)!
[Please don’t misunderstand my statement, I’m only expressing personal conviction and understanding from Holy Spirit; please always allow God to guide your mind and actions.]
Let God Lead You To Your Spouse!
We shouldn’t marry someone based on emotion, attraction, material things, or more; always consulting God first. Don’t get me wrong, these things are essential, but our future and destiny should not be based on things that can change easily.
Money - grow wings and flies “proverbs 23 v 5”
Attraction – following attraction & emotion kills “proverbs 7 v 24 - 27”
Since Jesus said in Matthews 19 v 6 AMP “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.” As you can see the clause “What God has joined together”
Question: What is joining your union... God or your emotions?
The Human heart is a very important factor in any issue of life – bible said in Proverb 4 v 23 NKJV
“Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.”
As you can see marriage affects your heart, and your ability to keep and guide your heart is critical.
Bible says in Proverbs 21 v 9 AMP:
“It is better to live in a corner of the housetop [on the flat roof, exposed to the weather] Than in a house shared with a quarrelsome (contentious) woman.”
Please carefully replace the woman with a ‘person’ and a lot of us can relate that sharing a house with a contentious person will kill any relationship.
Jesus added to the issue of heart in marriage Matthews 19 v 7-8 AMP.
7 The Pharisees said to Him, “Why then did Moses command us to give her a certificate of divorce and send her away?” 8 He said to them, “Because your hearts were hard and stubborn Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning, it has not been this way.
The human heart is difficult to understand, let talk about this later in another post!
For this reason, the bible said in Jeremiah 17 v 9-10 AMP
“The heart is deceitful above all things And it is extremely sick; Who can understand it fully and know its secret motives? 10 “I, the Lord, search and examine the mind, I test the heart, To give to each man according to his ways, According to the results of his deeds.
So, since we all make emotional decisions that affects us in one way or the other negatively, we should remember that marriage involves God. God doesn’t want you to get married or get a divorce base on emotion, but also doesn’t want to be in an abusive “physical, financial, emotional, and more” relationship because HE cares and Loves you.
Furthermore, consult God before you marry anyone. However, if you already got a divorce and are remarried, then please consider if you are committing adultery or not –
If you are committing adultery, repent for your sins and talk to God about what you should do next. (God forgives and only God knows who is going to heaven or hell; if anyone says you are going to hell for remarrying, they are not God. Only God can make that decision.)
Romans 10 v 6 – 9 AMP read verses 1 to 12.
“But the righteousness based on faith [which produces a right relationship with Him] says the following: “Do not say in your heart, ‘Who will ascend into Heaven?’ that is, to bring Christ down; 7 or, ‘Who will descend into the abyss?’ that is, to bring Christ up from the dead [as if we had to be saved by our own efforts, doing the impossible].” 8 But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart”—that is, the word [the message, the basis] of faith which we preach— 9 because if you acknowledge and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord [recognizing His power, authority, and majesty as God], and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.”
And if you have already remarried, devote your new marriage to God. Allow Only God to be your consultant, counselor, advisor, and learn to communicate. This doesn’t mean you should not consult professional people, but you shouldn’t bring people into your marriage.
Ephesians 5 v 22 – 33 talked greatly about marriage and how both parties should submit, love, nourish, protect, cherishes, respect each other in action and words.
So, move close to God in heart and action, remember that marriage is permanent in God's sight. Our father is a loving father and he cares about your trouble, anxiety, or anything that is bothering you. So, I encourage you to read Philippians 2 v 12 – 18, but I focus on 12-13 because our salvation is not by our effort but by God's gift. So, live your life to please God.
Philippians 2 v 12-13 AMP
"So then, my dear ones, just as you have always obeyed [my instructions with enthusiasm], not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence, continue to work out your salvation [that is, cultivate it, bring it to full effect, actively pursue spiritual maturity] with awe-inspired fear and trembling [using serious caution and critical self-evaluation to avoid anything that might offend God or discredit the name of Christ]. 13 For it is [not your strength, but it is] God who is effectively at work in you, both to will and to work [that is, strengthening, energizing, and creating in you the longing and the ability to fulfill your purpose] for His good pleasure."
Again we shouldn’t marry someone based on emotion, attraction, material things, and more without consulting God first. Don’t get me wrong, these things are essential, but our future and destiny should not be based on things that change easily. We must understand that our relationship with God is the core of our being.
Please Remember:
Do not forget both man and woman are created in God’s images. “Genesis 1 v 27”
God loves you, so learn, listen, and allow Him to direct you. “Psalm 32 v 8”
Nothing can separate you from God loves “Romans 8 v 38-39”
Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. “Psalm 34 v 19”
As you can see, trouble will arise, there will be a difficult times; however, trusting in God and obeying his instruction key to our joy.
So... Does God forgive if you get a divorce?
In conclusion – God loves you and wants the best for you. So, if your relationship is threatening your safety or wellbeing please distance yourself to safety. Every situation is different and only God knows everything, so always consult Him in every situation. In addition, I believe that God forgives you for separating from the union/marriage that His presence is not in.
Prayer – My all-sufficient Father (El-Shaddai) I want to thank you for your protection, kindness, mercy, direction, guidance, the gift of life, and more. please heal me and my relationship from past pain, emotional trauma, and any residue effect of my (divorce or trauma). I place my trust in you and you only. Thank you for healing me because you care.
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