The reason why I am very passionate about connecting Faith & Mental Health is because without God and following his commandments, your mental health is more likely to suffer. Within this post I will talk about what happens to you physically and spiritually when you have sex. I will intertwine Biblical principles so that you can be set free mentally from the negative affects of sex!
Let's Discuss Sex
Sex can either positively uplift your mental health or negatively affect your mental health.
Sex is the act of physically joining two people together in love and/or maybe lustful pleasures.
The ‘spiritual connection’ when having sex is something that we cannot see in the physical world, but when you have sex, you are connecting with another person spiritually!
Whatever happens to you physically and spiritually, will affect you mentally; this is a continuous circle that happens in life.
What happens if I have Sex with someone who is NOT my spouse?
God calls Christians to be equally yoked with other Christians.
Equally yoked means to be alike and believe in the same God (Christianity).
What happens when you step outside of God’s will and have sex with someone you are not equally yoked with?
For example: Let’s say you are a girl who meets a nice guy.
This nice guy does not believe in God, he smokes, drinks, addicted to porn, and has no drive to do anything in life.
He has no ambition, so he goes from job to job and is depressed because he does not know his purpose in life.
You decide to have sex with him anyway because he is a nice guy who likes you.
After having sex with him multiple times, you (the girl) start to smoke, drink, and watch porn.
You stop praying and believing in God.
Now you are depressed too.
This is an example of what could happen to you physically and spiritually if you have sex randomly and with people who are not equally yoked to you.
When you have sex with someone, you are spiritually exchanging likes, dislikes, character traits, purposes, DNA and more!
If your DNA changes and your personality changes, you are no longer yourself!
You are now a combination of all the people you had sex with: the good and the bad!
Now you may ask… What if I have sex with a good person or a Christian instead?
God calls us to obey his commandments and wait until marriage to have sex.
If you do not obey God, this is a sin.
Sin comes with consequences and this can affect your mental health negatively.
You may not physically see any consequences, but there will be spiritual consequences.
Is your sin worth the mental anguish you may go through?
Is sin worth your soul and where you may go after this life?
And He said, “Whatever comes from [the heart of] a man, that is what defiles and dishonors him. For from within, [that is] out the heart of men, come base and malevolent thoughts and schemes, acts of sexual immorality, thefts, murders, adulteries, acts of greed and covetousness, wickedness, deceit, unrestrained conduct, envy and jealousy, slander and profanity, arrogance and self-righteousness and foolishness (poor judgment). All these evil things [schemes and desires] come from within and defile and dishonor the man.”
- Mark 7:20-23 AMP
*** If you have sinned against God, its important to ask God for forgiveness and stop sinning. ***
If you are a Christian, God wants you to marry an equally yoked Christian and someone who has a similar life purpose to you.
***(It is so important to marry someone based on other things such as having a similar life purpose because you were only meant to marry the person God has for you. Just because someone says they are a Christian, this does not make them your spouse or equally yoked to you. It is super important to fellowship with God and pray about who exactly your spouse is!)***
When you have sex with unequally yoked people, you are likely to become more like them, fall away from God and this can negatively affect your mental health.
Not only does God call Christians to be equally yoked to each other, he calls us to wait until marriage to have sex!
Marriage is a Covenant (a vow to God) that you will remain with your spouse until death.
Marriage is a physical and spiritual example of God’s love!
God wants Kingdom marriages to show his love to non-believers.
This can happen when you do not wait until marriage!
When we do not obey the commandants God laid out for us (to help us grow and keep us safe), the enemy (Satan) then has an open door to attack your you, which may follow into your future marriage.
The enemy does not want Godly planned marriages to exist!
The enemy plans is to steal, kills and destroy all humans; however, God plan is to bless and prosper you in abundance in every aspect of life. (read John 10:10)
When we disobey God, the enemy gains more power to cause us to sin.
Basically: Yes, having sex affects your mental health!
When you follow God and marry the spouse he has for you, you are more likely to have positive sexual experience and positive mental health.
When you do not follow God and have sex with random people, you are more likely to have diseases, unplanned pregnancy, negative traits from partners passed to you, changes genetically and more!
Having sex randomly and with many people (outside the covenant of marriage) will most likely lead you to a downward spiral of misery and depression.
To make sure that having sex does not affect you mentally in a negative way, please consider surrendering your life to Christ, practice ‘no sex’ before marriage and wait on God to bring you your spouse!
“Run away from sexual immorality [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body.”
- 1 Corinthians 6:18 AMP