Updated: May 27, 2020
My personality is pretty laid back. I'm a "go with the flow" type of girl... I use to be an over thinker though.
I have grown from that, but now, I am MARRIED to an over thinker!
It absolutely drives me nuts. 😭
"I thought too much and lived too much in my mind."
Overthinkers live in their heads. They analyze and pick apart every single aspect of everything.
If you are an overthinker, I'm here to help you.
Here are 4 ways to NOT overthink!
1. Stop Worrying!
Worrying opens the door to overthinking. Its ok if you did not look perfect today. Its ok if you woke up late for the first time in years. Its ok if you enjoyed that amazing doughnut.
Worrying does not solve your problems, it only adds to them. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff.
2. Put things into Perspective.
Think about what you are overthinking about. Is it really that important? Does overthinking make you sad, mad or anxious? Try to figure out why you are overthinking your thought. What is the underlining reason for you overthinking?
For example: Your friend did something that made you mad. You think about it constantly. Ask yourself this: What exactly caused you to get mad? Why did it make you mad? What do you think could have happened in that moment that would have made you happy instead of mad? Now, that you've answered those questions, analyze exactly why you feel the way you feel. Did your friend's actions bring up some of your unresolved trauma? Did your friend's actions cause you to get mad because you're stressed?
Once you put your thoughts into perspective, then you can get to the root of your problem and put the thought to bed. Also, if you are overthinking problems in your life, try to find solutions. If you can not find solutions, pray about it and give your worries to God.
3. Change the Thought.
Whenever you start overthinking, change the thought. Start thinking about something positive or something that makes you really happy. This will stop your overthinking before it gets too bad.
4. Be Present. Breathe.
I have learned that over thinkers really have a hard time being in the moment. Being present where ever you are and who ever you are with, is the best way to letting go of your thousands of thoughts. Taking a moment to take a deep breath, brings you back to reality and allows you to present in the moment.