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How To: Stop Comparing Yourself to Others!

Updated: Aug 17, 2020


When we compare ourselves to others, we lack understanding.

We lack the understanding of how God views each of us (individually).

We are uniquely and wonderfully made by God.

There is no one like me or you on this Earth.

You are unique and special.

Unique means one of a kind; unlike anything else.

When you compare yourself to others, you are forgetting the special gifts and qualities God gave you and that make you unique.

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Psalm 139:14 NIV

*** Transformation Homework ***:

Write down your personality traits, gifts and talents.

When you feel like you want to start comparing yourself to others, look at this list. This list will remind you of all the qualities God gave you that makes you

unique and special!

Here are some reasons why you should NOT compare yourself to others:

- Each one of us are God's Masterpiece!

- We each have different gifts and talents that is connected to our own individual purpose.

- We have different wants and needs that will fulfill our unique minds, bodies and souls.

- Each one of us came to Earth for a unique purpose and calling that God gave us. Your purpose is for the advancement of the Kingdom!

"Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other. In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. So if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out with as much faith as God has given you. If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, teach well. If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If it is giving, give generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly." Romans 12: 4-8 NLT

Here are the DOs and DO NOTs to Comparing Yourself To Others:


1. Focus on God

When you focus on God and the plans that he has for your life, it is easier to have less negative thoughts (comparison thoughts). Focusing on God includes talking to God, praying, worshipping, and reading the bible. When you focus on God, you are able to hear all of the good plans that he has for you. These plans will direct you to your calling and purpose in this life. Your vision will be clear on what God has for you, instead of thinking of others.

"You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart."

Jeremiah 29:13 NIV

2. Focus on Yourself

Focus on the talents God has given you, not someone else. Your talents, no matter how different or similar it maybe to someone else, should not and can not be compared. You can have the same talent as someone else, but is still different because you look different, speak differently and think differently. Your unique qualities intertwined with your talents, will reach certain people that others can not. Concentrate on what God has asked you to present to the world. As you focus on putting out positive work, your light can shine bright and can led others to the Kingdom!

"Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct."

Galatians 6:4-5 NLT